Making friends as an adult is hard.
We Should Hang Out is the step-by-step guide to making friends as an adult, keeping them, and building a group.
- 43 short modules, from your first conversation to a group of your own
- Learn the four words that turn one good meet-up into a regular thing
- No “just put yourself out there”: exactly what to do, with word-for-word scripts
Does any of this sound familiar?
Your friends have settled down.
Partners, kids and mortgages mean seeing them takes six weeks of planning.
The group chat has gone quiet.
It used to go off every night. Now it only wakes up for birthdays.
You moved for work.
The only people you know here are the ones you work with.
You work from home.
Some days your longest chat is with the delivery driver.
You’ve never quite found your group.
You get on with people easily, but it never turns into anything regular.
You keep saying “we should hang out”.
You mean it every time. Somehow, it never happens.
None of this means something is wrong with you.It means the conditions that made friends for you have quietly disappeared.
It’s not a crisis. It’s just quieter than it used to be.
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Monday morningSomeone at work asks what you did at the weekend, and you make it sound busier than it was.
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WednesdayYou get good news, and have to think about who to tell.
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Saturday nightYou see the photos from a night you didn’t know about.
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DecemberAnother year of “we must catch up” goes by.
You know what you’re missing.
- A standing Thursday night.
- Someone who’d notice if you went quiet.
- Plans that happen without six weeks of messages.
It doesn’t have to stay this way.
From first hello to friends for life, in eight parts
This isn’t a list of apps and events. Those are free and easy to find. It’s the skills and the follow-through that turn meeting people into actual friendships.
Meet people
Why this is hard now
- Understand why it got harder (it isn’t you)
- Drop the beliefs holding you back
- Find your best place to start in 20 minutes
Social foundations
- Start a conversation with anyone
- Make small talk lead somewhere
- Leave a chat without it feeling awkward
Being good company
- Listen so people feel heard
- Tell stories people enjoy
- Get past small talk to real conversation
Where to meet people
- Find the places where friendships actually form
- Make friends through teams, volunteering and work
- Meet people through friends of friends
Turn them into friends
From acquaintance to friend
- Spot who’s open to becoming friends
- Make the first invite without it feeling weird
- Turn one meet-up into a second and a third
Building a group
- Bring people together and host without fuss
- Start a regular thing that keeps going
- Keep the group chat alive
Keep them for life
Rebuilding old friendships
- Understand why friendships drift
- Send the message that reconnects you
- Rebuild a friendship when lives have changed
Keeping friends for life
- Stay close through busy years
- Work through conflict and repair
- Follow a 90-day plan to make it stick
A few things you’ll learn
- The four words that turn one good meet-up into a regular thing
- How to leave a conversation without it feeling awkward
- Why one-off events rarely lead to friendships, and what to do instead
- How to tell if someone is enjoying your company
- What to do when someone keeps cancelling
- What to say to an old friend after years of silence
Read for a few minutes. Then do one small thing.
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Find your starting point
A 20-minute audit points you to the part that fits your situation.
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Read a short module
About five minutes each, written for your phone.
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Try one small thing
Every module ends with an action you can do today, and the words to use.
Everything you need to go from “we should” to “see you Thursday”
- 43 short modules you can read in a few minutes each
- Word-for-word scripts for the first invite, swapping numbers, reconnecting with an old friend and saying sorry
- “Start where you are” and a 20-minute audit, so you know exactly where to begin
- A 90-day plan to turn what you’ve learned into a social life that keeps going
- Lifetime access and every update, on your phone or laptop
Everything included
That’s under 70p a module, for skills you’ll use for the rest of your life.
Get instant access- Secure checkout, instant access
- One-off payment. No subscription.
- 60-day money-back guarantee
Try it for 60 days. If it’s not useful, get your money back.
Read the modules, try a few exercises and see how it feels. If it’s not for you, email hello@weshouldhangout.net within 60 days and we’ll refund you in full.
No forms. No awkward questions.
Count me inIs this for you?
It’s for you if…
- You want more friends, closer friends, or a group of your own
- You’d rather learn how it works than keep waiting for luck
- You’re happy to try small, practical things, even if they feel awkward at first
- You’d call yourself shy, introverted or a bit rusty. There are modules for that.
It’s not for you if…
- You’re looking for dating advice. This is about friendship only.
- You just want a list of apps and events. Those are free online.
- You want a guarantee that someone specific will become your friend. Nobody can promise that.
- You need support with your mental health. Your GP or NHS 111 is the right first step.
Questions people ask
Isn’t making friends just common sense?
Knowing you should text someone isn’t the same as knowing what to say, when to say it, and what to do if they don’t reply. The course is about the follow-through, with exact steps and scripts.
I’m introverted or get anxious in social situations. Will it still work?
Yes. You don’t need to become the life of the party. There’s a module on social anxiety, and the exercises start very small, so you build up at your own pace.
What if reaching out to people feels scary?
The course starts small and builds up, so you’re never asked to do something big before you’re ready. It also helps to know the fear is usually wrong:
- People underestimate how much others appreciate hearing from them out of the blue. (Liu et al., 2022)
- After a first conversation, people tend to underestimate how much the other person liked them. Researchers call this the “liking gap”. (Boothby et al., 2018)
How long does it take?
Each module takes a few minutes to read. Go at whatever pace suits you. One module and its exercise a day works well. You keep access for life.
The changes take longer than the reading. Friendships build through small, regular steps over weeks and months, so give it time and keep going.
Is it videos or reading?
It’s written, so you can read it anywhere, at your own pace: on the bus, on your lunch break or on the sofa. No headphones, no waiting for videos to load.
Do I have to join a group or community?
No. The course is private to you. Nothing is shared or posted, and you won’t be added to any chats.
Is it a subscription?
No. You pay once and keep the course, including any updates.
What if it doesn’t work for me?
Email us within 60 days and we’ll refund you in full.